Ask for what you want

If you don’t ask, you won’t get!

I’ve always taught my kids that it never hurts to ask and that the worst that can happen is you get a no.

But if you don’t try, you’ll never know.

You’d be surprised at what’s possible, what people are willing to do or what can open up for you, just from asking.

We make up these stories about other people that are so often not true. They’re just that – stories that we’ve made up in our minds – that are likely rooted in our own insecurities, our own fears or scarcity thinking or some childhood experience that left you feeling not good enough or rejected.

Yes, you may have to get over some fear of rejection or of receiving a no, but after that, just put yourself out there and ask.

Get excited for what’s on the other side of your question – and be totally detached from the outcome. Be good with a yes – or a no. You can even work through worst case scenarios to help you detach and not have such a “charge” around it.

Either way you’re moving forward and you’ve gotten clarity.

If it’s a yes – celebrate! And anchor that experience in, so you can draw on it later when you’re in a similar situation and not feeling confidant to ask.

If it’s a no, celebrate that too! Honour your courage to even ask and then be grateful that you can stop wasting mental energy worrying about asking that particular person and move onto the next possibility or option. 

They’ve actually saved you time and energy by being clear, so you can move forward in a new direction.

Asking is a muscle that you can strengthen. You’ll get better with practice.

But give people the opportunity to make their own decisions – don’t decide for them. 

If your “come from” is one of integrity, then it really doesn’t hurt to ask. 

And you certainly won’t know unless you try.