Learning to be a good receiver
In the past I haven’t been a very good receiver – it’s been a skill that I’ve been learning to develop.
You might be surprised at how many areas this impacts and the subtleties of it.
This idea first came to my attention over 10 years ago at a live money mindset event where we learned to receive compliments.
The directive was to just say thank you and receive the compliment. Nothing more.
Boy did that make people in the room squirm, including myself.
Some people weren’t comfortable receiving the compliment at all. Others wanted to deflect it. Others wanted to immediately reciprocate – which we learned was just a learned behaviour, and honestly isn’t very genuine as it’s coming more from a place of obligation.
Obviously the reason for people’s automatic responses varied – however, many reasons will simply boil down to not feeling good enough or worthy enough. It’s a common theme.
So why were we learning to receive a compliment at a money mindset course?
Because the cause produces the effect.
We all have patterns that show up in different ways until we address them – until we do the work at a cause level.
If you’re not able to receive a compliment genuinely and graciously, then you’re likely also not able to receive help well either – or money for that matter.
And if you don’t receive well – it’s as if you’re putting an umbrella over your head and deflecting all of the gifts being showered on you.
On a physical level, how long would you continue to give someone a compliment or help if they weren’t gracious about it – or even rejected it?
Probably not for very long.
It’s way more fun to give to people who are gracious, appreciative receivers. In fact you want to give them more and more!
By learning to be a good receiver it’s a win-win for both parties. As the giver, they’ll likely feel fulfilled and satisfied giving to you – and as the receiver, you’ll likely feel a great sense of appreciation and upliftment.
This creates abundance for all – an abundance of good will, an abundance of joy, an abundance of reciprocity, and an abundance of appreciation.